A Guide to Effective Human Relations…

Most people think they can solve problems by themselves and they are smart enough to determine and plan for their eternal destiny. People want to be the chooser of the way their life goes. Listen to what God says about the wisdom of mankind. OUCH!

 Proverbs 14:12 “There is a way which seems right unto a man, but the end thereof, is the way of death.”

Romans 1:21-22 “because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools,…”

A Guide to Effective Human Relations!

Try these on for size.

The Six Most Important Words: “I admit I made a mistake.”
The Five Most Important Words: “You did a good job.”
The Four Most Important Words:  “What is your opinion?”
The Three Most Important Words:  “If you please.”
The Two Most Important Words:  “Thank you.”
The Most Important Word:  “We.”
The Least Important Word:  “I”

There is a time in scripture when the word I has some merit. When I counts…

Gal 2:20 “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who lives, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”

Have you given God control of the I in your life this morning or are you of the thinking you can control your destiny?????


The Children are Watching…

Mat 7:12a “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them…”

The Children are Watching

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.

The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about Grandfather,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.”

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. Their Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.

Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp
admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?”

Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.”

The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family.

And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

Children are remarkably perceptive.  Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb.

If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives.

The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child’s future.

Let’s be wise builders.

Proverbs 22:6 “ Train up a child in the way he should go:  and when he is old, he will not depart from it. 

John 13:34, 35 “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

CHRISTian Humor and Truth…

James 1:22 “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

For the start of your day here are some thought provokers.

With most of these you can apply scripture principles.

Christian Humor and Truth

Don’t let your worries get the best of you; remember, Moses started
out as a basket case.


Some people are kind, polite, and sweet-spirited
until you try to sit in their pews.


Many folks want to serve God, but only as advisors.


It is easier to preach ten sermons than it is to live one.


The good Lord didn’t create anything
without a purpose, but mosquitoes come close.


When you get to your wit’s end, you’ll find God lives there.


People are funny; they want the
front of the bus, the middle of the road, and the back of the church.


Opportunity may knock once, but temptation
bangs on your front door forever.


Quit griping about your
church; if it was perfect, you couldn’t belong.


If the church wants a
better pastor, it only needs to pray for the one it has.


God Himself does not propose
to judge a man until he is dead. So why should you?


Some minds are like concrete
thoroughly mixed up and permanently set.


Peace starts with a smile.


I don’t know why some people
change churches; what difference does
it make which one you stay home from?!


A lot of church members who
are singing “Standing on the Promises” are just sitting on the premises.


We were called to be witnesses, not lawyers or judges.


Be ye fishers of men. You catch them – He’ll clean them.


Coincidence is when God chooses to remain anonymous.


Don’t put a question mark where God put a period.


Don’t wait for 6 strong men to take you to church.


Forbidden fruits create many jams.


God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.


God grades on the cross, not the curve.


God loves everyone, but probably prefers
“fruits of the spirit” over “religious nuts!”


God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage.


He who angers you, controls you!


If God is your Co-pilot – swap seats!



Don’t give God instructions — just report for duty!


The task ahead of us is never as
great as the Power behind us.


The Will of God never takes you to
where the Grace of God will not protect you.


We don’t change the message, the message changes us.


You can tell how big a person
is by what it takes to……….discourage him.


The best mathematical equation I have ever seen:
1 cross + 3 nails= 4 given.


James 1:22 “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

Our Greatest Fear…

Eccles. 12:8 “Vanity of vanities, saith the preacher; all is vanity.”

               Here are some great thoughts that a pastor gave us at the end of a sermon. It spoke volumes about how we can spend vast amounts of time, energy, and money on things that don’t really matter.

Our Greatest Fear

A perfect example was the antique car show that was held this weekend in my community. People spent years of time and money to fix up these old cars just so they can show them off at a car show and then take them home to store them.

Looking back at my own life, I spent a lot of energy playing sports. There were a lot of good things that came from being on a team, but sometimes I struggle with the emphasis and importance our society puts on athletics. It seems like winning a game is the only thing that is important and people have lost focus on what is really important in life.

The challenge for all of us is to evaluate how we spend our lives. It’s OK to have hobbies, but if they become the overwhelming driving force and time consumers in our lives, then we need to question our priorities in life. We need to consider the following quote.

“Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at something that doesn’t really matter.”

James 4:14 “Whereas you know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life?
It is even a vapor, that appears for a little time, and then vanishes away.”

So, where are your priorities this morning? Are they on fulfilling self directed and focused
goals or are they on…?

Matthew 6:33 “But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”

Matthew 6:19 “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:”


Why go to Church…

Heb 10:24 “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works…”


A Church goer wrote a letter to the editor of the newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to church every Sunday. “I’ve gone for 30 years now,” he wrote, “and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 sermons. But for the life of me, I can’t remember a single one of them. So, I think I’m wasting my time and the pastors are wasting theirs by giving sermons at all.”This started a real controversy in the “Letters to the Editor “column, much to the delight of the editor.

It went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher: I’ve been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals. But for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for most of those meals. But I do know this: They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work. If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise, if I had not gone to church for nourishment, I would be spiritually bankrupt today!

“When you are DOWN to nothing…. God is UP to something! Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible!

Thank God for our physical AND our spiritual nourishment!

And finally the best reason………………

Heb 10:24,25 “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Prescribed by the Great Physician…

Matthew 4:18-19 “And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.”

**Prescribed by the** **Great Physician**


The next time you feel like GOD can’t use you, just remember…

– Noah periodically drank too much

– Abraham was too old

– Isaac was a daydreamer

– Jacob was a liar

– Leah was ugly

– Joseph was abused

– Moses was a poor speaker

– Gideon was afraid

– Samson had long hair and was a womanizer

– Rahab was a prostitute

– Jeremiah and Timothy were too young

– David had an affair and was a murderer

– Elijah was suicidal

– Isaiah preached naked

– Jonah ran from God

– Naomi was a widow

– Job went bankrupt and lost his family

– Peter denied Christ

– The Disciples fell asleep while praying

– Martha worried about everything

– Mary Magdalene was…

– The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once

– Zacchaeus was too small

– Paul was too religious

– Timothy had an ulcer…AND

– Lazarus was dead!


Now! No more excuses!

God can use you to your full potential.

Besides you aren’t the message, you are just the messenger!

**** Start by…

  1. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.
  2. Dear God, I have a problem, it’s Me.
  3. Growing old is inevitable growing UP is optional.
  4. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open.
  5. Silence is often misinterpreted but never misquoted.
  6. Do the math count your blessings.
  7. Faith is the ability to not panic.
  8. Laugh every day, it’s like inner jogging.
  9. If you worry, you didn’t pray. If you pray, don’t worry.
  10. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.
  11. Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be bent out of shape.
  12. The most important things in your house are the people.

13 When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.

  1. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.

15 He who dies with the most toys is still dead.

**Have a great day!!! The SON is shining and he can certainly use you!**

It is comforting to me to know that God can use me. And He does so not requiring that I be a theologian. I only need to be willing, God will provide the opportunity and the strength………..

2 Cor. 12:9 “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

Home Sweet Home……

 Matt 6:19-21 “”Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

 II Cor 5:8-10a “For we are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. Wherefore we labor, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of Him, for we must all appear before the judgement seat of Christ…”

Two missionaries were getting off a ship after serving and endangering their lives and their families for 40 years in Africa and were finally coming home to the states.

On that same ship was the Queen of England and there were bands and thousands of people greeting her as she was going to step off the ship.

The missionary’s wife said: Look darling, we have spent our whole life in service to our Lord and this woman has done nothing except she has the luxury of being born into the royal family and look at the reception she is getting.

Her wise and faithful husband squeezed her hand tightly and said, it’s ok sweetheart, we are not home yet……

II Cor 5:8-9a “For we are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord…”

Life on this earth offers some great opportunities but in view of eternity it is such a small amount. So, the moral of the story is; Make your life profitable for Jesus’ glory while you are here so that you will not be ashamed when He appears a second time!!!!!

And be content doing so!!!!!!!!!!!!

And the bigger question is, are you sure of where your eternal home is?

John 3:3 “Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”