A Parent Looks Back…

A PARENT LOOKS BACK

Where did the decades go? How could they have sneaked by so
fast? How could my little girl with ringlet hair and cherubic smile
already be twenty six years old? How could that little boy on the big
wheel now be thirty and married and raising his own children.

Wasn’t it just yesterday that they learned to write their names?

Now they are writing term papers, using e-mail and working to support
another generation. Wasn’t it just yesterday they asked Jesus to be
their Savior? Now both live in other parts of the country.

Gone are the preschool years, the elementary years and now the
teenage years. With the loss comes the recollection of so many great
times, and so many opportunities to reveal God’s goodness, His
guidelines, His love and His salvation.

As I think back on the opportunities I had during their
formative years, I’ve concluded that the most vital aspect of parenting
is your relationship with them. Only then can we maintain the fellowship
with our children where we instruct them properly. When parents and
their children share a relationship of mutual respect, new moments of
teaching build themselves into a lifetime of love and strong values that
they will not depart from.

Mom and dad make it easier for their children to listen to their
teaching by nourishing the relationship. It helps to make looking back a
great experience. GOD GIVES US CHILDREN for a time to train them in His
way, to love them and to teach them how to follow and obey.

Children may not inherit their parent’s talents, but they will
absorb their values; Portions from our daily bread – Jan 10 1997

Hebrews 10:25 “Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together,
as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the
more, as ye see the day approaching.”

A Parent Looks Back…

What impact does my life have on my family and generations to come?

Some statistics;

When mom only takes the children to church, 15% of those
children grow up to be active in a church.

When dad only takes the children to church, 55% of those
children grow up to be active in a church.

When neither parent takes their children to church, 9% of those
children grow up to be active in a church.

Our lives have a huge impact on our children by our words and
our deeds. The choices that you make with your family today will
determine the quality of life in your family tree for generations to
come. That’s why one person can make a difference and if you help your
family to know Jesus, it will be the single greatest and most fulfilling
task of your life.

Exodus 34:7 “…VISITING the iniquity of the fathers upon
the children and the children’s children to the
third and the fourth generation.”
Psalm 78:4
 “WE WILL NOT HIDE them from their children;
we will TELL THE NEXT GENERATION the
praiseworthy deeds of the Lord,
His power, and the wonders He has done.

According to the Christian values that govern my life, my
most important reason for living is to get…the Gospel
safely in the hands of my children. Of course, I want to
place it in as many other hands as possible; Nevertheless,
my number one responsibility is to evangelize my own children.
I hope the mission of other fathers agree with that ultimate priority.
– James Dobson

Proverbs 22:6 TRAIN UP a child in the way he should go, and when
he is old he will not depart from it.

Today I Taught My Child to…

Recognize it or not we will;

“Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go…”

Be careful! Our lives are bigger teachers than our words.

“TODAY I TAUGHT MY CHILD”

When I got mad and hit my child, “for his own good, I reasoned
I reconciled and then, I realized my plight. Today, I taught my child to fight.

When interrupted by the phone, I said “Tell them I’m not home.” And then
I thought, and had to sigh, Today, I taught my child to lie.

I told the tax man what I made, forgetting cash that I was paid And then
I blushed at this sad feat, Today, I taught my child to cheat.

I smugly copied a cassette, to keep me free of one more debt. But now
the bells of shame must peal, Today, I taught my child to steal.

Today, I cursed another race. O God, protect what I debase. For now, I
fear it is too late. Today, I taught my child to hate.

By my example, children learn, that I must lead in life’s sojourn. In
such a way that they are led, by what is done, and what is said.

Today, I gave my child his due. By praising him instead of rue. And now
I have begun my guide; Today, I taught my child his pride.

I now have reconciled and paid, to IRS on all I made.
And now I know that this dear youth; today, has learned from me, truth.

The alms I give are not for show, and yet this child must surely know.
That charity is worth the price; Today, he saw my sacrifice.

I clasp within a warm embrace, my neighbor of another race…The great
commandment from above; today, I taught my child to love.

I speed along at 80 mph because everyone else was doing it and after
all, wouldn’t I be a safety hazard if I didn’t. Today I taught my child to justify sin…

Someday, my child must face alone, this world of fierce some undertone,
But I have blazed a sure pathway; Today I taught my child… to pray.

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is
old he will not depart from it.”

Fires of Life that Build and Restore…

Hebrews 12:11 “Now no chastening for the present seems to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.”

Fires of Life that Build and Restore…

Each summer we read of fires out west and around the world. We frequently think of them as being disasters. Did you know there are fires in our lives that are intended to develop us spiritually? And yes, we frequently view those as disasters also. There are some misguided souls that teach that if you have fires in your life it is not a good thing or it is because of weak faith. The biblical reality is that some fires in our lives are noted in scripture as trials and tribulations and are required for our spiritual development of our faith.

When we view the reports of the wild fires or drive by where one has been we see that over time they actually renew life. If you’re going through a fire in your life right now, that will be something very important for you to mentally grab a hold of. If you don’t, all you’ll see is the damage and you’ll lose any sense of hope. And then instead of renewal or development the fires bring on discouragement.

It may be that those fires (trials and tribulations) have burned through your family recently, or your church, maybe your business or your relationships. Maybe they have affected your health. And there is no doubt that the fire has taken away a lot. There’s no denying the pain from the fire, but that’s never the whole story. You need to know the “rest of the story”. Maybe what we view as damage is actually development. What a paradigm shift!

1 Peter 1:6-7 “In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ;”

God describes the fires of life as trials. If you are a believer the only fire in your life not from God are those that are a result of sin. God sees us as valuable like gold. The fires are not forever; they are “for a little while”. And notice what the purpose of the fires or trials is. The purpose is not to destroy but to “refine” the gold or to get the impurities out so that it increases its value. And if we are honest with ourselves we have many impurities that we need to be purged from our lives.

The challenge we have is to view those fires as trials and tribulations sent from God. To count them as joy as James 1:2, 3 says. That’s a tough one but if you believe that God is doing a work in your life that knowledge will give you the courage to say thank you to endure. God sees us as worthy of purifying, improving, and getting ready for greater things. But that requires denial of self and spiritual development on our part. The fire that appears to take away so much, actually brings new life if we stay close to God during the fire.

What kind of new life does God bring out of the flames? For one thing, He helps us focus the rest of our life on the things that really matter. Everything in our lives goes in one of two columns. One column for things that really matter and another for the things that don’t. A lot of times we get those columns confused. When we ask God for the wisdom to know the difference we then can set God focused priorities. When we look to God we then can emerge from the fire more committed to His glory instead of self comfort and glory.

The fire often forces you to sort out where your identity is really anchored. Is it in a person, your job, or your title, or your performance, or your appearance, or in your relationship with Jesus Christ? Or putting it another way the fires help us to see where our real priorities in life are. Are they in self or in serving our Savior? The flames often drive you to a new closeness to Jesus.

Yes, the fire destroys. But it only destroys the parts or things of our lives that have no eternal value. And thank God, that is not the end of the story. The fire also renews!

Portions from Ron Hutchcraft Ministries and “Renewing Fire.”

II Cor 12:9 “And he said unto me, my grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

Going to the Movie…

Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or
praiseworthy – think about such things.”

Going to the Movie…

A father of some teenage children had the family rule that they could not attend PG-13 or R rated movies. His three teens wanted to see a particular popular movie that was playing at local theaters. It was rated PG-13. The teens interviewed friends and even some members of their family’s church to find out what was offensive in the movie. The teens made a list of pros and cons about the movie to use to convince their dad that they should be allowed to see it.

The Cons were:

– It contained ONLY 3 swear words
– The ONLY violence was a building exploding (and you see that on TV all
the time they said)
– You actually did not “see” the couple in the movie having sex, it was
just implied sex, off camera.

The pros were:
– It was a popular movie, (a blockbuster).
– Everyone was seeing it.
– If the teens saw the movie then they would not feel left out when their
friends discussed it.
– The movie contained a good story and plot.
– It had some great adventure and suspense in it.
– There were some fantastic special effects in this movie.
– The movie’s stars were some of the most talented actors in Hollywood.
– It probably would be nominated for several awards.
– Many of the members of their church had actually seen the movie and said
it wasn’t “very bad.”

They then said that, since there were more pros than cons, they
were asking their father to reconsider his position on just this ONE
movie and let them have permission to go see it.

The father looked at the list and thought for a few minutes. He said he could tell his children had spent some time and thought on this request. He asked if he could have a day to think about it before making his decision. The teens were thrilled thinking; “Now we’ve got him! Our argument is too good! Dad can’t turn us down!” So, they happily agreed to let him have a day to think about their request.

The next evening the father called his three teenagers, who were smiling smugly, into the living room. There on the coffee table he had a plate of brownies. The teens were puzzled. The father told his children he had thought about their request and had decided that if they would eat one of these brownies, then he would let them go to the movie. But, he explained, just like the movie, the brownies had pros and cons.

The Pros were:
– They were made with the finest chocolate and other good ingredients.
– They had the added special effect of yummy walnuts in them.
– The brownies were moist and fresh with wonderful chocolate frosting on top.
– He had made these fantastic brownies using an award-winning recipe.
– And best of all, the brownies had been made lovingly by the hand of their own father.

The brownies only had one con:
He had included a little bit of a special ingredient. The brownies also contained just a little bit of dog poop. But he had mixed the dough well and they probably would not even be able to taste the dog poop and he had baked it at 350 degrees so any bacteria or germs from the dog poop had probably been destroyed. Therefore, if any of his children could stand to eat the brownies which included just a “little bit of crap” and not be affected by it, then he knew they would also be able to see the movie with “just a little bit of smut” and not be affected.

Of course, none of the teens would eat the brownies and the smug smiles had left their faces. Only Dad was smiling as they left the room. Now when his teenagers ask permission to do something he is opposed to the father just asks, “Would you care for a brownie?”

Of course this is talking to adults as well as children. Satan seems to plant a seed that says the adult mind can handle those brownies and the children cannot.

Think about it. Is your stomach or mind affected by those brownies as an adult? Don’t be deceived.

I Cor 5:6b “…do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?”

And age makes no difference……………..

Who can I Trust…

Exodus 20:3-4 “Thou shalt have no other gods before Me.  Thou
shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of anything that
is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the
earth.”

Who can I trust in?

God created us to live in a social environment, and to be “knit together
in love.”  I know that I need other people.  But I also know that I’m a
sinner (saved by grace through faith) living in a fallen world full of sinful people.
I know that we have an adversary who constantly seeks to steal, kill, and destroy.

In the final analysis, I must place my complete trust in the Living God and in
Him alone.  The danger in trusting other people is that they can become gods.

If we are careful, we can start living and planning our life based on “their”
leadership, “their” opinions, and “their” performance.  And when things don’t go as
planned or hoped, we are all capable of going into an emotional, mental,
physical, or spiritual tailspin.

Let’s face it.  Who among us has had a career or a business plan
that panned out “perfectly?”  Who among us has not experienced major business
curve balls?

Perhaps you were just overlooked for a promotion or raise.
Perhaps you are being mistreated by an unreasonable boss.
Perhaps a valued colleague just made a big blunder-and you’re caught in
the painful aftermath.
Perhaps you expected a customer to sign a big contract, but it fell
through at the eleventh hour.
Perhaps you expected to get paid on-time by a client, but you’re still waiting.
Perhaps your company was just sold, and you’re finding it difficult to
adapt to the new culture.
Perhaps your company just announced that your division is closing or
moving elsewhere…or going through another
infamous “reorganization.”

Be of good cheer: God sees everything and knows everything.  Your 100%
solid Shield of Faith in the Lord will quench all the fiery darts and equip
you to keep moving forward regardless of what other people do or don’t do!
God has a wonderful way of working things out for good-often in mysterious
and unexpected ways!

– William Beckett

“Trust and obey…there’s just no other way…to be happy in
Jesus…than to trust and obey!”

 Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on
your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

What Motivates a Parent…

What Motivates a Parent…

To understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them:

I loved you enough…
to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough…
to insist that you save your money and buy
a bike for yourself even though we
could afford to buy one for you.

I loved you enough…
to be silent and let you discover that your
new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough…
to make you take a Milky Way back to the
drugstore (with a bite out of it) and tell the clerk,
“I stole this yesterday and want to pay for it. ”

I loved you enough…
to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned
your room, a job that would have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough…
to let you see anger, disappointment and tears in my eyes.
Children must learn that their parents aren’t perfect.

I loved you enough…
to let you assume the responsibility for your actions
even when the penalties were so harsh they almost
broke my heart.

But most of all,

I loved you enough…
to say NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all.
I’m glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.

I loved you enough…
To let you hate me at times.

I loved you enough…
to tell you about Jesus and His love………..
To really understand love, you must understand how someone could
sacrifice their only Son to pay the debt of someone who chose to break off fellowship with Him.

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only
begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish,
but have everlasting life.”

Change is Not always Good…

II Chronicles 7:14 “If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

Change is not always Good…

One evening a boy was talking to his Great-grandfather about current events.
He asked him what he thought about the shootings at schools, the
computer age, and just things in general. His Granddad replied,
“Well, let me think a minute.”

“I was born before television, penicillin, polio shots, frozen foods,
Xerox, contact lenses, Frisbees, the computer and the pill. There weren’t things like radar, credit cards, laser beams or ball-point pens.”

“Mankind had not invented dishwashers, clothes dryers, electric blankets,
air conditioners, and he hadn’t walked on the moon.
“Your grandma and I got married first — then lived together as God designed it.”

“Every family had a father and a mother, and most boys over 14 had a rifle that their dad taught them how to use and respect. Until I was 25, I called every man older than I, ‘Sir’ — and after I turned 25, I still called policemen and every man with a title, ‘Sir.'” I opened doors for ladies so they felt respected.
“In our time, closets were for clothes – not for ‘coming out of.'”

“Sundays were set aside for going to church as a family, helping those in need, and just visiting with family or neighbors. We were before gay-rights, computer-dating, dual careers, daycare centers, and group therapy care.
“Our lives were governed by the Ten Commandments, good judgment, and
common sense.”

“We were taught to know the difference between right and wrong and to stand up and take responsibility for our actions. Although like today, we frequently did not.”

“Serving your country was a privilege; living here was a bigger
privilege and responsibility.”

“We thought fast food was what people ate too quickly at the table.”

“Having a meaningful relationship meant getting along with your cousins.”

“Draft dodgers were people who closed their front doors when the evening
breeze started.”

“Time-sharing meant time the family spent together in the evenings and
weekends — not in condominiums once a year.”

“We never heard of FM radios, tape decks, CDs, computers, electric typewriters, yogurt, or guys wearing earrings.”

“We listened to the Big Bands, Jack Benny, and the President’s speeches on radio’

“I don’t ever remember any kid blowing his brains out listening to the Supremes.”

“If you saw anything with ‘Made in Japan’ on it, it was junk.”

“Nothing was imported from China.”

“The term ‘making out’ referred to how you did on your school exam.”

“Pizza Hut, McDonald’s, Walmart and instant coffee were unheard of.”

“5 and 10-cent stores were where you could actually buy things for 5 and 10 cents.”

“Ice cream cones, phone calls, rides on a streetcar, and a Pepsi were all a nickel.”

“And if you didn’t want to splurge, you could spend your nickel on
enough stamps to mail 1 letter and 2 postcards.”

“You could buy a new Chevy Coupe for $600, but who could afford one? Too
bad, because gas was 11 cents a gallon.”

“In my day, ‘grass’ was mowed, ‘coke’ was a cold drink, ‘pot’ was
something your mother cooked in, and ‘rock music’ was grandma’s lullaby.”

“‘Aids’ were helpers in the Principal’s office, ‘chip’ meant a piece of wood, ‘hardware” was found in a hardware store, and ‘software’ wasn’t even a word.”

“And my generation that was so dumb as to think a lady needed a husband to have a baby and was special enough to open the door for.”

“No wonder people call us old and confused and say there is such a generation gap.”

“And I’m only 87 years old.”
With “Age” comes progress. Some good and some ugly. Be careful not to adopt them all!

Ecc 3:1 “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.”

Some things/values should NOT change AND ARE GOOD.

Malachi 3:6a “For I am the Lord, I change not …”

So, yes there are absolutes in this world and they are all recorded and protected for our benefit.

II Tim 3:16, 17 “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”