A Guide to Effective Human Relations…

Most people think they can solve problems by themselves and they are smart enough to determine and plan for their eternal destiny. People want to be the chooser of the way their life goes. Listen to what God says about the wisdom of mankind. OUCH!

 Proverbs 14:12 “There is a way which seems right unto a man, but the end thereof, is the way of death.”

Romans 1:21-22 “because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools,…”

A Guide to Effective Human Relations!

Try these on for size.

The Six Most Important Words: “I admit I made a mistake.”
The Five Most Important Words: “You did a good job.”
The Four Most Important Words:  “What is your opinion?”
The Three Most Important Words:  “If you please.”
The Two Most Important Words:  “Thank you.”
The Most Important Word:  “We.”
The Least Important Word:  “I”

There is a time in scripture when the word I has some merit. When I counts…

Gal 2:20 “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who lives, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”

Have you given God control of the I in your life this morning or are you of the thinking you can control your destiny?????


The Children are Watching…

Mat 7:12a “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them…”

The Children are Watching

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.

The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about Grandfather,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.”

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. Their Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.

Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp
admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?”

Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.”

The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family.

And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

Children are remarkably perceptive.  Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb.

If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives.

The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child’s future.

Let’s be wise builders.

Proverbs 22:6 “ Train up a child in the way he should go:  and when he is old, he will not depart from it. 

John 13:34, 35 “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

CHRISTian Humor and Truth…

James 1:22 “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

For the start of your day here are some thought provokers.

With most of these you can apply scripture principles.

Christian Humor and Truth

Don’t let your worries get the best of you; remember, Moses started
out as a basket case.


Some people are kind, polite, and sweet-spirited
until you try to sit in their pews.


Many folks want to serve God, but only as advisors.


It is easier to preach ten sermons than it is to live one.


The good Lord didn’t create anything
without a purpose, but mosquitoes come close.


When you get to your wit’s end, you’ll find God lives there.


People are funny; they want the
front of the bus, the middle of the road, and the back of the church.


Opportunity may knock once, but temptation
bangs on your front door forever.


Quit griping about your
church; if it was perfect, you couldn’t belong.


If the church wants a
better pastor, it only needs to pray for the one it has.


God Himself does not propose
to judge a man until he is dead. So why should you?


Some minds are like concrete
thoroughly mixed up and permanently set.


Peace starts with a smile.


I don’t know why some people
change churches; what difference does
it make which one you stay home from?!


A lot of church members who
are singing “Standing on the Promises” are just sitting on the premises.


We were called to be witnesses, not lawyers or judges.


Be ye fishers of men. You catch them – He’ll clean them.


Coincidence is when God chooses to remain anonymous.


Don’t put a question mark where God put a period.


Don’t wait for 6 strong men to take you to church.


Forbidden fruits create many jams.


God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.


God grades on the cross, not the curve.


God loves everyone, but probably prefers
“fruits of the spirit” over “religious nuts!”


God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage.


He who angers you, controls you!


If God is your Co-pilot – swap seats!



Don’t give God instructions — just report for duty!


The task ahead of us is never as
great as the Power behind us.


The Will of God never takes you to
where the Grace of God will not protect you.


We don’t change the message, the message changes us.


You can tell how big a person
is by what it takes to……….discourage him.


The best mathematical equation I have ever seen:
1 cross + 3 nails= 4 given.


James 1:22 “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

Workplace Attitude…

Workplace Attitude
         It’s so easy to get caught up in the pace of the world and leave Jesus out of our lives and our workplace. Here’s an idea. What would it be like if we looked at our place of employment as a mission field??????? You know, like Jesus asks us to do in His scriptures.

Mat 4:19 “Follow Me and I will make you fishers of men.”
Mat 28:19a “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations…”

Workplace Attitude – Take Jesus With You

I drive into work listening to gospel music or a prerecorded sermon on the radio or a message from Christian programming.  I get out of the car and walk to the building entrance.  As I open the building door I leave just enough room for me to get in and I leave Jesus out of my life situations of the day.  After all, I have so much to worry about and do today…………..after all my situations at work are too small for Jesus to take care of them. Or I never thought that my Jesus wanted to be involved in my whole life.

Jesus waits patiently for me to return to Him throughout the day as I do my thing for the next 9 hours. You see I left Him figuratively at the door when my total focus was allowed to be changed. And of course He never left me.  I left Him for the moment.

First two hours of work–I fuss and complain about things not going right. Jesus waits for me to ask for help. Of course I’ve been trained nicely by my world that I can do all things through my own strength. I don’t want to have to be dependent on anyone or anything. After all, I am a proud person. Oh, if I only knew just how dependent I really am.

By lunch time–I’m flustered, regretting I work in this place and sputtering bitterness all over folks. I act like most of those around me. Jesus continues to wait on me. He tries to get my attention but I can’t hear him; my focus is on my problems and how I can solve them.   And as things get worse I grow further into myself to find strength.

Jesus knows that with this attitude I went in there defenseless.

When will I learn?

End of the day–I’m tired, run down, no energy, irritable & frustrated. I leave the building & Jesus happily greets me as I attempt to leave the worldly focus but I’m in no mood for Him now.  I’ve just been to hell and back and the last thing I want to do is be bothered with anyone but me and my pity party.

God shows me how badly I’ve been and worst of all, He lets me feel a small portion of how grieved He was because of my actions and attitude. I left Jesus outside of my life, almost let the door smack in His face and I went in here defenseless.

From time to time our jobs overwhelm us and we completely forget to “take Jesus with us.”  We may not go around cursing anyone out or punching anyone in the face (hopefully) but what are our actions saying about us and about who or whose we are?

We are or at least we are supposed to be the salt of the Earth and the light of the world.  A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.   

        Col. 3:23-24 – “Whatever you do, work at it with ALL your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward.  It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

What if our work place, neighborhood and community really are our mission fields? TRY TAKING JESUS WITH YOU TODAY.

Give it a try today and see if at the start and end of the day your attitude is different!

Have a BLESSED Day serving the King of Kings!!!

Prescribed by the Great Physician…

Matthew 4:18-19 “And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.”

**Prescribed by the** **Great Physician**


The next time you feel like GOD can’t use you, just remember…

– Noah periodically drank too much

– Abraham was too old

– Isaac was a daydreamer

– Jacob was a liar

– Leah was ugly

– Joseph was abused

– Moses was a poor speaker

– Gideon was afraid

– Samson had long hair and was a womanizer

– Rahab was a prostitute

– Jeremiah and Timothy were too young

– David had an affair and was a murderer

– Elijah was suicidal

– Isaiah preached naked

– Jonah ran from God

– Naomi was a widow

– Job went bankrupt and lost his family

– Peter denied Christ

– The Disciples fell asleep while praying

– Martha worried about everything

– Mary Magdalene was…

– The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once

– Zacchaeus was too small

– Paul was too religious

– Timothy had an ulcer…AND

– Lazarus was dead!


Now! No more excuses!

God can use you to your full potential.

Besides you aren’t the message, you are just the messenger!

**** Start by…

  1. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.
  2. Dear God, I have a problem, it’s Me.
  3. Growing old is inevitable growing UP is optional.
  4. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open.
  5. Silence is often misinterpreted but never misquoted.
  6. Do the math count your blessings.
  7. Faith is the ability to not panic.
  8. Laugh every day, it’s like inner jogging.
  9. If you worry, you didn’t pray. If you pray, don’t worry.
  10. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.
  11. Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be bent out of shape.
  12. The most important things in your house are the people.

13 When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.

  1. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.

15 He who dies with the most toys is still dead.

**Have a great day!!! The SON is shining and he can certainly use you!**

It is comforting to me to know that God can use me. And He does so not requiring that I be a theologian. I only need to be willing, God will provide the opportunity and the strength………..

2 Cor. 12:9 “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

Home Sweet Home……

 Matt 6:19-21 “”Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

 II Cor 5:8-10a “For we are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. Wherefore we labor, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of Him, for we must all appear before the judgement seat of Christ…”

Two missionaries were getting off a ship after serving and endangering their lives and their families for 40 years in Africa and were finally coming home to the states.

On that same ship was the Queen of England and there were bands and thousands of people greeting her as she was going to step off the ship.

The missionary’s wife said: Look darling, we have spent our whole life in service to our Lord and this woman has done nothing except she has the luxury of being born into the royal family and look at the reception she is getting.

Her wise and faithful husband squeezed her hand tightly and said, it’s ok sweetheart, we are not home yet……

II Cor 5:8-9a “For we are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord…”

Life on this earth offers some great opportunities but in view of eternity it is such a small amount. So, the moral of the story is; Make your life profitable for Jesus’ glory while you are here so that you will not be ashamed when He appears a second time!!!!!

And be content doing so!!!!!!!!!!!!

And the bigger question is, are you sure of where your eternal home is?

John 3:3 “Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

Tech Support, I need HELP…

Humor, Challenge and Truth!
Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.”

 Tech Support, I need HELP:

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that the new program began making unexpected changes to the accounting software, severely limiting access to wardrobe, flower, and jewelry applications that operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.  No mention of this phenomenon was included in the product brochure.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalls many other valuable programs such as Dinner Dancing 7.5, Cruise Ship 2.3, and Opera Night 6.1 and installs new, undesirable programs such as Monday Night Football 1.3, Saturday Football 5.0, Golf 2.4, a Sunday Nascar 5.1, and Clutter Everywhere 5.5.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs smoothly, and invariably crashes the system. Only under significant alterations will the software run Diaper Changing 14.1 or House Cleaning 2.6.

I’ve tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix Husband 1.0, but this all purpose utility is of limited effectiveness. Can you help please?!?!

Thank You, Jane

Dear Jane:
This is a very common problem women complain about, but is mostly due to a primary misconception.  Many people upgrade from Boy friend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 with no idea that
Boy friend 5.0 is many times only an ENTERTAINMENT package.  However, Husband 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM and was modified by some Users to run as few applications as possible. The original Design programming was not that way.

Further, you cannot purge Husband 1.0 and return to Boy friend 5.0, because Husband 1.0 is not designed to do this. Many try but it only causes systems crashes. Hidden operating files within your system would cause Boy friend 5.0 to emulate Husband 1.0, which is not possible.

It is impossible to uninstall, delete, or purge the program files from the system, once installed as planned by the software programmer. Any new program files can only be installed once per year, as Husband 1.0 has severely limited memory.

Error messages are common, and a normal part of Husband 1.0. In desperation to play some of their “old time” favorite applications, or to get new applications to work, some women have tried to install Boy friend 6.0, or Husband 2.0. However, these women end up with more
problems than encountered with Husband 1.0. Husband 1.0 was designed to be perfect for the life of users.

Look in your manual under “Warnings: Divorce/Child Support.”  You will notice that this program runs very poorly, and comes bundled with Heart Break 1.3; I recommend you keep Husband 1.0, and just learn the quirks of this strange and illogical system. A large dose of Unconditional Love 1.0 is required from the user and the software.

Having Husband 1.0 installed myself; I might also suggest you read the entire section regarding General Partnership Faults (GPFs).  This is a wonderful feature of Husband 1.0, secretly installed by the parent company as an integral part of the operating system.

Husband 1.0 must assume ALL responsibility for ALL faults and problems, regardless of root cause.  To activate this great feature enter the command “C:\ I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME” Sometimes Tears 6.2 must be run simultaneously while entering the command.

Husband 1.0 should then run the applications Apologize 12.3 and Flowers/Chocolates 7.8. There are viruses out there Silence 12.4 and Pouting/Laziness 7.9 so be sure to run your virus protection Soft Answer 12.6 frequently.

Avoid excessive use of Tears 6.2.  Overuse can create additional and more serious GPFs, and ultimately YOU may have to give a C:\>I APOLOGIZE command before the system will return to normal operations.

Overuse can also cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, or worse yet, Silence and Pouting. Pouting/Laziness 7.9 is a very bad program that causes Husband 1.0 to create Fat Belly files and Snoring Loudly wave files that are very hard to delete.

Save yourself some trouble by following this tech tip!  Just remember!  The system will run smoothly, and take the blame for all GPFs, but because of this fine feature it can only intermittently run all the applications Boy Friend 5.0 ran.

Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. Consider buying additional software to improve performance.
I personally recommend Hot Food 3.0, Lingerie 5.3, Patience 10.1 and of course Unconditional Love 1.0. Using it in conjunction with these utilities can really help keep Husband 1.0 run smoothly.

After several years of use, Husband 1.0 will become familiar and you will find many valuable embedded features such as Fixe B Broken Things 2.1, Snuggling 4.2, Best Friend 7.6 and most importantly will provide Returned Unconditional Love 1.0.

A final word of caution!  Remember that Mother-in-law 1.0 comes with many of the same issues.  You should not attempt to uninstall. This is not a supported application, and will cause selective shut down of the operating system. Husband 1.0 will run only Fishing 9.4 and Hunting 5.2 until Mother-in-law 1.0.

There is one solution, if you install Unconditional Love 2.0 you can safely manage Mother-in-law 1.0 and Unconditional Love 2.0 has features that work with all other programs.

I hope these notes have helped.  Thank you for choosing to install Husband 1.0 and we here at Tech Support wish you the best in coming years.

We trust you will learn to fully enjoy this product!

Proverbs 3:5-7 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.   In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.   Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.”