1 Thes. 4:3 “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye
should abstain from fornication:”

James 1:13-14 “Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God:
for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But
every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.”

Purity before and while Married

Notice from I Thes 4:3 that it is God’s will that we keep pure. This is a
command not a suggestion we’re dealing with. God says, “I want you to
be sanctified,” which means to be kept special – not diminished by sex with anyone
but your lifetime partner. He says the way to do that is to “avoid sexual
immorality.” In other words, don’t be anywhere near where you could mess
this up. II Tim 2:22 tells us to flee temptation activities that can trip us up.
Run for your spiritual life!

And then we are told to keep ourselves pure by controlling our own
body. Don’t let your body, don’t let your mind get to a point where your
passions are controlling you. Then there’s this sudden tack about not
wronging or taking advantage of another person. What’s this about?

There is a third person being hurt when two people are physically
involved outside of marriage. What’s happening is really four-way theft.
First, sex outside of marriage boundaries hurts you, and then it hurts
your partner. You’re robbing yourselves of the enjoyment of sex that is
guilt free and regret free and judgment free inside marriage. This unique
love gift is no longer unique because you’ve given it to someone else,
which in turn robs two other people.

Four-way theft: four people, two of them innocent parties, lose what
could be so special because someone couldn’t control their hormones. In
reality it’s utter selfishness, masquerading in our world’s definition of love.
At the moment you may not know what you’re taking away from the innocent.
You may not even mean to be taking it, but it’s gone and it’s impossible to
return what you have taken. And yes, you are accountable. There is no such
thing as, I didn’t know it was wrong or it wasn’t my fault. Adam tried to blame
Eve and Eve tried to blame the serpent and God said you are both guilty and
accountable for your own actions.

‘They are not meeting my needs’, does not fly with God either. Actually
no excuse is accepted by God. That tone reflects conditional love and we
are to provide unconditional love as our Savior did for us. Good thing!
Otherwise we would still be dead in our trespasses and sins and doomed to
eternal hell.

If you are in the middle of a sexual relationship with anyone other than
your marriage partner, whether it’s your present or future partner, take this
as a warning from God. It is sin. He loves you. He stands ready to forgive
you if you’ll honestly repent at the cross of Jesus. In fact, He died
for that very sin – one that He wants to forgive you of so you can be clean
and know Him personally.

This is also a topic you must have with your children or yes even
your grandchildren if appropriate. The enemy is selling ‘free love’ but in
reality it leads to spiritual death and the loss of one of God’s most
wonderful blessing. The relationship of a man and a women in marriage.
Keep yourself and help keep your family pure…………………
(Portions from R Hutchcraft ministry of 20 Oct 04)

2 Tim. 2:22 “Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith,
charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us
our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”